Comments on: Barely Above the Current

By: Vivian

Vivian — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 00:30:43 +0000

Morgan, thank you for putting it that way – I will hold on to that…

By: Morgan

Morgan — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 23:24:51 +0000

VIV!
your words “refurbished marriage” painted a neat word picture for me. Obviously im not married but that idea of being refurbished… I think thats what every relationship needs to be. Refurbished isnt “used up and put back together so it works” although, somedays i swear that would be more than enough! Refurbished as I see it/understand it is being taken apart, carefully examined piece by piece, repaired in detail, old parts made new, broken fixed, and after all has been layed out, seen and prepared its put back together to be whole and perfectly functioning. So, really- its better than new. Every part is known and in order. Just as it should be. Thats the process and it is glorious however muddy we may feel. And I think that just may be the “something so precious will come to pass that it will suffice for all hearts”. God is in it. I know it, I know it I just know it. And he loves you and he loves me. And i love you. Keep fighting. victory is won!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 16:08:33 +0000

Thank you for your vulnerability & courage, Vivian. I am grateful for your gift of communication. I’ll keep praying for your continued healing. Love you!!!

By: Addie

Addie — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 11:51:54 +0000

Thanks, Vivian. You are very right about everything. I know Chris is different, at least he certainly seems so. Everyone has a past. Your welcome about the “safe” friend thing, lol. I have known him since I was 12, going on our 14th year of knowing each other. I have seen a lot and seen him changing for the better. Keep up the good work, lol! I know he loves you guys sooo much and fully regrets his choices.

By: Lacey

Lacey — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 09:14:49 +0000

May God bless you for your struggles, your faith and your tenacity. Life is brutally painful, but through the pain there is joy. Keep your chin up, roomie. God will never let the water get so high that you will drown. (was that totally cliche?!)

By: Vivian

Vivian — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 15:48:44 +0000

Ryann-
YOU GOOF! lol
“brief time as somewhat close friends”?! Why, I’m hurt! I know what you mean but SERIOUSLY- I do consider you a close friend and I wish we…er…I would keep in better contact!
…Ill-minded? I have no idea to what you are speaking of… Black Velvet? Farting contests? nooooo idea.
You have more grace than you know.
Give Tyson and Mason a big ol’ hug from us. Wish you guys lived here…
Viv

By: Ryann

Ryann — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 14:56:59 +0000

Vivian-
You are wise beyond your years to say the least. You have this beatiful faith and almost a need to see beyond the face value of things. I see that this has come at a great expense and times may not always be welcome. Isn’t easier sometimes to just let things go? It’s so tiresome to “fight”, and claw and dig and work…..anyway, I’m not sure I’ve told you how much I appreciate our somewhat brief time as pretty close friendship even if some of the circumstances were ill minded of sorts. LOL does that make sense?? You are such a strong woman, and I truly aspire to have one iota of grace that you display!
-Ryann

By: Vivian

Vivian — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 06:29:46 +0000

Thank you for your kind words, Addie. I know what you mean, but trust me- no one is “too good” for anyone. We are all a mess, some are just less … evolved? in their journey. I think Chris could have dealt with his past more before we dated, but that was my own naivete in thinking that “all things were made new” when he professed faith. Anyway… weeds in our lives that are simply “trimmed” will only resurface and grow out of control during periods that we don’t keep up with them… it is only when we dig them out completely, painfully, root and all, and continue to work at it with that level of commitment, that the yard begins to truly be healthy. If that makes any sense. It appears, from my front row vantage point, that this year has been about his weeds being uprooted and dealt with – but only time will tell, and I am certainly in no mind to defend his past nor vouch for his future. All I can say to you, who has been a close friend of his for some time, is that his daily behavior is a 180 from what it used to be, and he is showing me a real dedication to his recovery process and his family.
Thanks for always being a “safe” friend for him You are stronger and wiser than you give yourself credit for, lady!
Vivian

By: Addie

Addie — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:43:47 +0000

Your a very strong woman Vivian. I often think when reading your page here if I could do things the same way or handle it like you have. I know I don’t know everything that went on but you really are a very good person. Never would have thougth that Vivian from my music appreciation class would have been married to my jerky (sorry Chris) good friend Chris, lol. I thought you were too good for him, really. He really didn’t prove me wrong, lol. Sorry I don’t mean to joke that much but your doing a great job as a mother, wife, and probably everything else you do. Wish I could come visit you guys and meet Verity and you could meet my edition. Your wedding was beautiful. I was in Naples Monday and found the favor you gave out at your wedding, I still have mine!! Oh man I’m writing too much. Maybe I need my own blog, lol.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:28:56 +0000

Thank you for sharing that.